Apply the LOA

Apply and live the law of attraction

If you want to use the law of attraction to improve the quality of your life and get what you really want, you will have to live and consciously apply the main principles. The main principles to attract what you want in life are simple and will yield results in any area of your life, be it financial, relationships, health or experiential.

Thoughts and feelings

Your thoughts, and therefore your feelings that are the result of your thoughts, are the main trigger to anything that you want in life. It is important to understand that thoughts are in fact energy and influence your body. Your brain constantly emits the energy that are thoughts and if those thoughts are positive, positive energy is emitted. The key definition of the law of attraction is that “like attracts like”. Hence, if you emit positive thoughts (= energy), positive energy is attracted back to you.Please note that the opposite is also true – negative thoughts attract negative energy (more about the below).

This may sound too abstract so far. “So can I manifest my dreams just by being positive?” you might ask. There are a number of underlying principles and things that you can do (and make a habit of) that will help you reap the benefits of the law of attraction.

How can I make the Law of Attraction work for me?

1. Focus on what you want

This is an important point that many practitioners believe is the reason why so many people don’t achieve what they want in life. The first thing you should do before adopting the habits that we will discuss below is to really, really know what exactly you want. The important point here is to decide what you want, NOT what you DON’T want.

This is a very important distinction. Many people, when asked, might say something like “I don’t want to be poor”, “I don’t want to be alone”, “I don’t want to be sick” etc. If you think of what you don’t want in life, i.e. negatives, this will be picked up by the universe and you will get more of it. Instead think “great health”, “abundance”, “love” etc.

Write down what it is exactly that you want and write it as if it is already so, e.g. “I have got a perfect partner, who is supportive, loving, funny and clever”, “I live in the house of my dreams with a swimming pool, a fire place and a beautiful garden” etc.

What you focus on will increase, so don’t focus on the negatives but the positives.

2. Positive Thinking and Feeling

Your thoughts trigger your emotions. Your mind is constantly at work and you almost always talk to yourself. It is this self-talk that influences your emotions. Since we have established that your emotions are energy that attract things and experiences into your life, your aim should be to have positive emotions most of the time, as positive emotions will attract positive experiences.

Several studies by renowned psychologists show that by being positive and optimistic, one’s health and resilience benefits. Positivity also broadens the mind (see “Positivity” by Barbara Frederickson, PH.D.) and therefore allows us to spot opportunities that we might not see if we are negative and pessimistic. Thus, positivity will help you become more successful, even if you are still a law of attraction sceptic.

The obvious place to start to re-engineer your emotions is to become aware of your self-chatter and how that makes you feel. If you can root out unconstructive and negative chatter (“I am really rubbish with money”, “I don’t deserve this job”, “I will never find that perfect man/woman” etc), you will be well on your way to “self-mastery” and to feeling good most of the time. Clearly, there are times when negative emotions, such as sorrow are appropriate and it’s ok to experience them, IF you can draw a line when it’s been “enough”. Easier said than done, I know, but there are a number of exercises and techniques, including meditation, that will help you will controlling your self-chatter and therefore your emotions.

Another very important habit that you should practice in order to reap the fruits of the law of attraction is visualisation:

Once you have clearly defined what it is that you want to attract into your life, visualise it. Many self-help experts will tell you that visualisation of your goals is of the utmost importance. Muhammad Ali used visualisation, he would visualise an entire fight and even in which round his opponent would “go out”. Apparently, out of 19 fights in which he predicted the outcome, 17 happened in the exact way that he imagined it.

So visualisation is not some strange spiritual concept, but an important tool to achieve what you want. What law of attraction practitioners will tell you is that you should not just see your achievement, but feel exactly as if it already happened. It is this feeling of elation, happiness, gratitude, pride etc, which will send out the right signals to the universe. This is probably the most important element to harnessing the law of attraction.

So, if you want to attract a new job into your life, imagine and feel yourself doing the job already. You might want to sit down and close your eyes and get into that feeling, a bit like day-dreaming, only that the positive emotions rush through your body. Some books report stories where people pretended that what they wanted was already part of their lives. For example, a woman who wanted to attract the perfect man into her life, cleared out her double garage to make space for her partner’s car (who, of course, showed up a little later in her life). The webpage dedicated to the film The Secret offers a number of free visualisation tools, including a “cheque from the universe” which you might find helpful.

We know that the mind can play tricks on us and it is actually proven that it does not differentiate between what is “real” (reality is anyway in the eye of the beholder) and what is imagined. Tests on Olympiads showed that athletes’ muscles actually fired when they visualised their 100m run for example.

So even if you are a sceptic and are having trouble embracing the concept of the law of attraction, practicing visualisation can only help improve your life and achieve your goals.

3. Gratitude

Who would doubt that being truly grateful for what the universe has presented you with is not a valuable habit? I know that a deep feeling of gratitude may be difficult if you are struggling in some or many areas in your life. How can you feel gratitude if you don’t know how to make that next credit card payment, or if you are seriously ill?

I have not been grateful enough in my life and have had a tendency to moan and complain about things in my life that were not what I wanted them to be – a job that I hated, a bank account that was in bad shape etc.

Gratitude is an essential part of the law of attraction (and most religions, by the way). What you are grateful you will get more of. If you want to make the law of attraction work for you, you have to be sincerely grateful for what you have, even if you actually think that you don’t have enough of it. A great example is, as so often, money. Practice to be grateful for the money that you do have and money you have received in the past. You may have to start by cheating yourself a little bit – if you get a bill in the post pretend it’s a cheque for example and be deeply grateful. I know it sounds ludicrous, but it is not just practitioners of the law of attraction that will tell you this.

The well-known British hypnotist and author of bestselling self-help books Paul McKenna, suggests you create your own account statements, showing massive income and credits and look at them on a daily basis. This ties in with the visualisation process discussed earlier and will help you to feel deep gratitude for your “riches”.

A number of personal development coaches suggest going through a mental list of 3-5 things that you are really grateful for each night before you go to sleep and again when you wake up in the morning. A very powerful exercise is to write down at least five things every day and feel deep gratitude for them.

Even if you have decided not to believe in the law of attraction – increase the gratitude you feel every day and your life will improve.

If you are interested in a more structured approach to gratitude, I can recommend “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne (the creator of the worldwide success movie “The Secret”).

4. Giving without expectation

You will have heard “giving is better than receiving”. Many studies into happiness have confirmed that it is more satisfying to give and contribute than to get. You may feel that the law of attraction is about “getting” and achieving, but you have to accept that you will only really get what you want if you give as well. However, you have to separate the process of giving from any expectation if you want to harness the benefits of the law.

An obvious area of “giving” is financial. Tithing is the practice of giving a certain amount of your income to charity or other deserving causes. If you want to attract more money into your life, you will have to give money. It is important though not to expect a specific return for what you give. If you are in business, try to forget ROI (Return on Investment) when you give. Don’t worry about the return or wait for a cheque! Most importantly, don’t give to impress others or increase your prestige. Oprah Winfrey (who, by the way, is a firm believer in the law of attraction – see Living the Law of Attraction on her site), apparently has donated large sums of money anonymously, so is not expecting shows of gratitude to her personally.

But giving is not just about money. You can donate your time to help colleagues for example, or help the lady across the street with her shopping etc. If you give, you will receive in return. Trust in this law and try to put aside any expectations of a defined return. Adam Grant, professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, found in his studies around productivity, that “givers” generally achieve “extraordinary results across a wide range of industries” (see his new bestseller Give and Take).

5. Believe

This might be the toughest point to work on; in fact, you might ask “how can I force myself to believe in something”. This is particularly hard as you might not be able to make the law of attraction work for you for a while; doubt creeps in and you might stop doing the things recommended here. I have had such moments (actually weeks and months), which is one of the reasons why I decided to create this site: to constantly report experiences, discuss books that may be helpful and publish readers’ own experiences, with the aim to keep up the momentum and to make the principles of the law of attraction a life habit.

Srikumar Rao (bestselling author and former professor at Columbia Business School and London Business School) discusses the “benevolent-universe model” in his book “Are You Ready to Succeed?” and agrees that one cannot force oneself to believe in anything. However, he offers the following path to belief in the benevolent-universe (and therefore the law of attraction):

“Do you remember instances in your life when something happened that you initially labelled as terrible but later opened up wonderful vistas?” I am sure you will be able to come up with a list, e.g. you may have lost your job and finally start your own business, your girlfriend broke up with you and you later found the true love of your life. Even less spectacular experiences are worth considering – how about your favourite wine was sold out and you tried a new one which you like even better? Dr Rao urges us to write down all such instances, and ones that you may be experiencing from now on, in a journal. Do this on a daily basis and review your earlier entries, and you will reach a turning point; you will become aware of the many instances in your life where the universe is working with you. At this stage you will start to see the universe as a conscious entity that is supporting you. This new vantage point will vastly improve your life and I am sure that from here on you will start to reap the benefits of the law of attraction.

Summary

The 5 steps that I have outlined above could probably be broken down into many more, but I believe that they capture the essence of how one should live to manifest ones dreams. I have tried to weave in findings from scientists, professors and athletes, as I hope that this will convince you to take the steps to live in accordance to the law of attraction.

As mentioned before, I will am posting regularly on my blog and hope to attract many comments, stories and recommendations from you to build up a library of inspiring text to help us all improve our lives and manifest our dreams.

What’s This Site About?

Many people would say that the law of attraction is hocus pocus and does not work. My point with this website is that if you implement all the elements that form the basis of the law of attraction, such as being positive, envisioning your goals, giving to others etc, your life is bound to get better, richer and more meaningful. So what is the harm in living according to the principles of the law of attraction? I am updating my blog on a regular basis with my own ideas, experiences, books that I have read and am hoping that readers will share their own stories. By following my blog, I am hoping that I will help you to embark on a journey which will enable you to live the life of your dreams.